How many of us feel unworthy and consistently self-sabotage even when we are high achievers and seem to be experiencing success?

There are many people out there who consider themselves highly successful in life and work but who won’t admit that they are really successful.

When Shirley MacLaine won her Oscar in 1984 for her role in “Terms of Endearment,” at the end of her acceptance speech she said: “Thanks, I deserved this!”

She told the audience:

“I don’t believe there are such things as accidents. I think that we all manifest what we want and what we need. I don’t think there’s a difference really between what you feel you have to do in your heart, and success — they’re inseparable … Films and life are like clay waiting for us to mold it, and when you trust your own insides and that becomes achievement, it’s a kind of principle it seems to me is at work with everyone … God bless that potential that we all have for making anything possible if we think we deserve it. I deserve this. Thank you!”

A reluctance to talk about success and achievement is higher in women than in men, and unfortunately for Shirley MacLaine there was a small amount of criticism and backlash with comments such as: “How dare she say she deserves to win!”

In the current climate where gender equality is much talked about as a fundamental human right, women need to celebrate success, if only to demonstrate to other women that there is no glass ceiling and that they are entitled and deserve the success they have attained.

How do you stop that self-sabotaging behaviour? As Internationally renowned psychiatrist Sir David Hawkins says: “People simply mirror back your internal belief systems”.

Believe in what you say and this will follow through in your actions. More often than not we are our own worst enemies.

Investing in mindset coaching is a great way to face your fears.

Book your free 15 minute call today to see how we can help you improve your success mindset.

Why the best leaders have a mentor

Everyone needs a mentor, no matter who they are, no matter how powerful and successful and no matter the professional and personal heights they have attained.  A mentor is someone who is willing to invest time, energy and effort in guiding mentees through their personal and/or professional life by using their experience and knowledge to minimise the chances of failure.

Brenda uses the skills of mentors who give her objective advice and help to ensure that she is able to achieve her professional goals and to further her development, and Brenda is now giving back and is a mentor to others, helping them to live their best lives.

Finding the right mentor can make all the difference. We have all had mentors throughout our lives, whether that was a teacher at school, a friend or relative. Sometimes we choose to ignore their advice, or maybe sometimes the advice came at a time when we weren’t open to receiving it, but as we mature most of us realise that having a mentor is a good idea.

Most of the successful and well-known entrepreneurs in this world have benefited from having a mentor. Success is never a result of a solo endeavour but it is something that has evolved from taking on board opinions and having the guidance of someone else who can see things from a different perspective.

Once we are open to working with a mentor, how do we find one?  Firstly, think about the type of mentor that you require. Do you have an idea for a start-up? In which case you will need someone who understands the market you want to enter and who can help you structure your ideas.

Secondly it is a good idea to get recommendations from others who have had personal experience of working with a mentor.

Finding the right mentor should be part of your strategy. Importantly you should like the person and trust their judgement.

Don’t forget that if you want to have a good relationship with your mentor then you need to fully engage with their advice and take any constructive criticism on board.  The support of a mentor can kick start you to move towards your goal and send you on the path to success.

Contact Brenda today and see if she is the mentor you have been looking for.